Helping is Healing

Last week my client was telling me the story of her back pain. The first doctor scared the shit out of her. After that, she told me about how she had to push hard to find a team of professionals to help her. She got rid of her pain and found out there was no reason to be scared and it was not as serious as she was first told.  (Also, if anyone is struggling with chronic pain you need to check out Amy Eicher )  The problem is many people get caught in this first step because they are experiencing pain and/or panic, which doesn’t make advocating easy.   So, I want to provide some insight that I hope can help.  The medical world is segmented. It is rare for medical professionals in different specialties to work together as a team. This doesn’t mean they aren’t good professionals; it is just a disjointed system. So, this means that YOU need to be the dot connector and advocate for yourself.  YOU have to create your team because no one else will...

How the hell am I supposed to love this postpartum body? The complexity of body image.  Messaging that supports embracing our postpartum bodies rather than “body back” is SO needed; however, there is still a mucky complexity that comes with it for the women that feel like they might want plastic surgery. They may feel that they “failed” at embracing their body along with a laundry list of other failures as a mother. And so continues the guilt/ shame cycle of motherhood. I thought I would NEVER love my body and got really pissed at people that told me I should or that I would with more time. But then I DID. I found a deep love for my body....  ...with time, education, getting strong AF, and helping others. But I still didn’t want a protruding belly for the rest of my life. The problem isn’t that women get tummy tucks and boob jobs after having babies. It is that they rush into these surgeries because they have a great disda...

Surgery Blog....Finally!  It has taken me forever to write this blog partly because my recovery took so long, and I wasn’t in the mindset to write it. However, mostly it was because I don’t want to pretend to be an expert on this surgery or for you to think that the way my surgery was done is the “right” way. Or for you to think that all the information you need can be found in this blog. Plus, I am only 3 months into recovery, and I don’t REALLY know how I am doing other than I have a much flatter stomach.  So, I decided to write this blog into two parts. The first part is what I believe is universally important, and the second part is about how MY surgery was performed and why my surgeon thought that was best. But, again, that doesn’t mean it has to be that way for you.  Finally, I also recognize that the advice I am giving you in this blog is full of privilege. Hiring a full time nanny for 3 weeks, opening a no interest credit card to p...